So I’m stuck. Not sure what to write, questioning if anyone’s interested, cares or even wants to hear what I have to say. Stuck in an endless feedback loop with myself: one part of me saying “I’m going to finally write that book”. The other side saying “Whatever you write has already been written – you’re not clever enough or witty enough or even original enough!”
No wonder I’m stuck!
So I’m grateful today to an email from a colleague asking me to explain the improv principle of BE AVERAGE.
Here’s some of what I wrote in response:
writes about improvisers trying to be too clever. It’s easy to see in an improv performance because they are searching their brain for a witty or clever line. Essentially they are blocking themselves by thinking, even unconsciously, that whatever idea has come into their mind, it’s “not [insert any adjective] enough” eg not clever enough, not witty enough, not original enough. So Keith trains improvisers to be obvious, and to be average. The first step in acknowledging and accepting the offers of others is to accept your own offers – no matter what you think of them. This gives you an opportunity to ‘do something’ by ‘starting anywhere’ and building on subsequent offers.
Giving yourself permission to ‘be average’, gives you space to explore what might potentially emerge, to see the possibilities rather than reject ideas because they aren’t ‘good’ enough.
“Giving it all you’ve got commonly backfires. There is a paradox that when we are trying hard the result is often disappointing. A healthier climate is one in which we tell ourselves to just be average. Take the pressure off. Avoid the mindset that says “This one better be good!” or “Be original.” When you try to do your best the effect on your performance is often to jinx it. In all cases there is something to lose. This can provoke tension and easily lead to anxiety.”
This principle often tricks me – I find myself NOT doing something because I want to do it SO WELL, that I do nothing at all, for fear of failure. I know when I’m not being average because I’m not being anything – I block myself. It’s only when I give myself permission to be average that I can do what I need to do and maybe even surprise myself, and others, by exceeding expectations.
I really should take my own advice more often! Hope you enjoyed this average post.